Empowering our Children
Author : Adrian Anderson
Childhood is the first part of an individual’s being in becoming human. Children come into this world vulnerable to being shaped into what adults and different parts of their world expect them to be and become whether if its fair for the child or not. Gone are the days when children were told that adults have all the resources and power. Children have come to be resilient and realise that they are almost always powerful, always were was and always will be and are holding the inherent power that they came to earth with. Children are suffering on many levels for many reasons and require compassionate conversations to help them to heal, develop, become the best learners, to be safe and vulnerable human beings without the risks. Manipulation and control can no longer keep children oppressed, suppressed or manipulated shaped into an object and be disempowered.
Adults and social powers have to change their stance and ask children “how can ‘we’ work together to empower you?” how can we share power and control?” Adults who use the old stance are exposed as powerless in their false concept of power and bravado.No longer is social control implemented by inducing guilt, shame, and mind manipulation of children. This is not a rebellion it’s their liberation through information. That style is more likely to work with vulnerable adults with a mindset shaped by the concept of slave masters and colonizers. Children have knowledge at their fingertips that they share in the clouds of technology, in isolation out of sight of the anxious controlling, manipulative adults withholding power. They can tell adults that knowledge is not power but combined power with humanity is true power. For children slavery has vanished, freedom is here, no more shouting or beatings or manipulating or breathtaking fear that breaks mind body and spirit. Adults must restore their humility as children.
The truth is that children need a model of power that is empowering, to observe experience and remodel. The sad truth is they do have models that they remodel and get punished for remodelling. It even sadder that when they remodel adults examples it makes adults angry, abusive, manipulative, offer discipline for children who model adults indiscipline. We spend money to put interventions in place so that they don’t remodel what adults model. I imagine if all children told all adult teachers the “I will kill you to miss” when the children are angry. What would our world look like?